♥ Thursday, January 6, 2011 ♥
The Secret of My Success
by Michael Webb
I constantly get calls, letters and emails from people who wonder
how I could possibly do all the romantic things I write about on my
website, in my books and in my various newsletters.
Many want to know how they can be more romantic or get their
significant other to be more caring and affectionate.
Do you want to know my secret?
My secret is Athena. If any of you ever met her, you would realize
that it would be difficult to NOT be loving and romantic around her.
There are quite a few traits that make me want to treat Athena like
the treasure she is. In this essay, I'll discuss one of the
reasons she is so easy to love and pamper. Later on I'll share
more.
Not a Nagger
The other day Athena saw my bath towel on the middle of our bedroom
floor. She said "you might want to hang up your towel or it won't
dry out in time for your shower tomorrow." When my clothes pile up
outside of the hamper, she sweetly says "it would really help me
out a lot if you put your dirty clothes in the hamper." She was
exhausted one morning and when Ashton (then five months old) began
to stir. She turned over to me and asked if I wanted to "get up and
have a little morning playtime with Ashton". That was a much nicer
way of asking me to help her out than saying "Why am I the one who
always gets up early to take care of YOUR son. I think it is YOUR
turn for a change."
Athena always thinks of nice ways to ask me to help out or to stop
doing something irritating. It is far more effective than if she
nagged about it.
In most relationships a polite and sincere request gets much
greater results than if you yell, nag or complain. While some men
and women do respond to incessant nagging, they do so to get you to
shut up and are resentful for the way you behaved.
I can't take credit for being a super romantic. Athena's kindness,
gentleness and thoughtfulness made me this way.
