♥ Friday, November 26, 2010 ♥
i am a failure.
fail to plan, plan to fail.
fail to abide, FAIL.
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"Is Fighting Fair?
by Michael Webb
If your child came to you and asked if she could have a fight with
her friend down the street would you tell her "sure, just make sure
it is a fair fight"? If Iraq and Iran are fighting, do you think
it is good as long as they are "fighting fair"?
Most people would say that they should try to talk over their
differences and peacefully negotiate instead. So why do so many
people say it is ok for couples to fight as long as they have a
fair fight? That certainly sends the wrong message even though they
might be using the word "fight" in a different way. We should be
encouraging couples to negotiate instead of fight.
So, here are some points for negotiating a problem in your
relationship.
# Wait until your temper is in control. If necessary, exercise,
take a walk, work in the garden or do something that will help
relieve the tension.
# Schedule a time and a place for the "peace talks" to take place.
Make sure you have enough uninterrupted time to work through the
issue. Pick a location that is peaceful and without distractions.
Some people like to go to a restaurant or public place so they will
be forced to not yell.
# Discuss the issue at hand. Don't wait until you have five or ten
things that are upsetting you before you schedule a talk.
# The purposes of negotiations aren't to have your mate believe
just as you do, but for them to understand your beliefs and
feelings. People are different and that can be a good thing.
# Use "I" sentences to explain how you feel. For example "I feel
hurt and neglected when you spend all Sunday with your golf
buddies" instead of saying "you are a bad husband for always
playing golf and ignoring me."
# Unlike fighting, in negotiations, no side has to come out "the
winner." Both of you will win with deeper understanding and
compassion for each other.
# Sometimes it is wise to compromise but other times it can cause
resentment. Don't ask your sweetheart to give up golf just because
he isn't spending enough time with you. Cut back, yes. Give up, no.
# If you find it helpful, write out your peace treaty and sign it."
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♥ Wednesday, November 17, 2010 ♥
HA! u only noe how to eat and grow fatter and be lazy u lazy fat pig!
♥ Tuesday, November 16, 2010 ♥
i love to be in ur arms~
hearing ur breathing & feeling ur heartbeat ;>
regret buying my new sports shoes!!!! ):
poor black toes.. gonna drop soon... bye nails ):
and they hurt!
hehe forgot wad i wanted to post le ;D
o i have some pics in my phone.. lazy transfer to com nw
;p
13 months coming!!!
♥ Thursday, November 11, 2010 ♥
"Just Say No to Fighting
by Michael Webb
When I went to Junior High School I said 'no' to drugs. When I went
to the marriage alter I said 'no' to fighting.
Nancy Reagan's "Just Say No" anti-drug campaign was a huge success.
Kids made a verbal commitment and a mental stance to avoid drugs
before they were even of the age to be tempted. When they were
introduced to drugs, they knew they could "just say no" and not
feel alone.
Drug use among school age children plummeted in the 1980s and many
have held up Nancy Reagan's program as the chief reason. People who
decide how they are going to cross a bridge before they ever get to
it have a much greater chance of not falling in the water.
Why can't we start a "Just Say No to Fighting" campaign? I'll
admit, we are against tough odds. It is perfectly acceptable (and
often expected) in our modern culture for a husband and wife to
fight. Many marriage and relationship counselors even encourage it
in the name of "communication."
Yes, it is true. My wife and I have never had a fight. Not in our
20-plus years of marriage. I don't intend on starting. I made a
decision when I was dating Athena that I would never fight with
her. I saw firsthand how the curse of fighting destroyed my
parents' and dozens of other marriages.
Certainly there are times when emotions get wrinkled, and the
natural inclination is to blow your top. I sometimes have to bite
my tongue so I don't say something I would later regret (since when
is self-control a bad thing?). Having a naturally calm personality
has admittedly made it easier for me to think before I speak than
it is for some people. But that shouldn't stop anyone from trying.
Unlike many other relationship experts, I don't see fights or
heated arguments as healthy. I just can't imagine how hurting my
spouse with verbal and emotional barbs (yes - they do cause serious
pain) could ever be encouraged under the guise of "opening up and
sharing your feelings." Baloney! I don't need to raise my voice or
throw dishes to say I disagree or to explain what I am feeling.
Neither does anyone else.
We don't fall for the drug pusher's lies that "everyone's doing it"
or "just a little bit won't hurt" and we shouldn't be so gullible
to accept the wives tales that everyone fights and that it is a
healthy part of relationships.
Fighting is not harmless. It is addictive and if continued, it is
likely to cause irreparable damage. It's time to get clean. Go and
fight no more."
♥ Friday, November 5, 2010 ♥
Face it. Guys are greedy creatures ):
the whole world is never enough, needless to say one.
Some things don tell me, i noe.
but still, i wish i knew everything..
No peektures for today! ;D
too caring? too sensitive? too faithful?
too much!
♥ Tuesday, November 2, 2010 ♥
Today is the first time i had the feeling not to get married...
Reasons?
Plenty ):
Intially i was very eager. VERY, i said. People close to me will know..
i so wanted to start a family with the special one.. but now, it seems like i have worries piling up..
):
