♥ Monday, January 31, 2011 ♥
How to Find (or Keep) a Spouse
by Michael Webb
Back in college I had a bit of a reputation -- a reputation with
the ladies. No, it's not what you think. Because I grew up with six
sisters I seemed to know quite a bit more about women than most
guys so they would often to come to me for advice.
I went to a Christian university and many of the men were older
students and actually serious about relationships. They weren't
just looking for someone to go out with, they wanted to find a wife.
"How will I know if a woman will be a good wife and how do I go
about finding her?" was a question I received time and time again.
Here was my advice.
Don't use all your effort on trying to find yourself a woman who
will be a good wife. Instead, spend almost all your time molding
yourself into a great husband. That's the hard part. Once you are a
man who will make a great husband, finding (and keeping) a wife is
much less difficult. The same advice goes for women looking for a
husband.
It was amazing to me that men who wouldn't brush their teeth or
comb their hair were frustrated that they couldn't get women to go
out with them. Guys who had little ambition and absolutely no
fashion sense couldn't understand why God hadn't "blessed" them
with a wife. And the same goes for sour, abrupt women who complain
that either they can't keep a man or the man they already have
isn't worth keeping.
This is not to say that if you are single it is because you are
unworthy. The point is, don't worry too much about finding or
keeping someone. Take care of yourself. Learn to be patient and
forgiving. Read books, take courses and do all things possible to
make yourself the number one potential husband or wife in the
world. That's the best way to find and keep a great wife or
terrific husband. They will actually search you out.
